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‘What Becomes A Legend Most’

It’s isn’t Janet Jackson in a full length mink coat, of that I’m sure.  I think the tag line is terrific – just misplaced.

We can all think of legendary people and moments for which books are written, songs are penned, clichés are born.  And then there are the everyday legends who may have no famous (or infamous) public persona, but impact our days, change our thinking, inform our choices and enrich our hearts.

There are people in my past who are legends in my memory.  My family is legendary – in more ways than one can define the adjective.  And then there are those who come into your days and you’d be an idiot not to recognize the karmic element of your meeting.  So it was when I met Chris.  He wouldn’t agree with me, he would argue that none of it is a big deal and perhaps when our time together is over, I will quickly recede from his memory.  That’s cool – he is forever etched in mine.  Meet Chris –

I began training with Chris a little over a year ago.  Given some of my physical limitations, I had major trepidation about going to the gym.  Chronic pain is well, a pain – long scars that extend from the neck down to places that haven’t seen the light of day in years, makes ‘flexibility’ a dirty word.  Tendons, fascia, ligaments that are just generally ornery – and that’s on a good day.  My body and soul are truly yin and yang.  I was afraid that at the least, I wouldn’t accomplish anything, and at worst I would end up doing some further damage to myself,  because at core I am still competitive and will ‘play hurt’.

Chris lost his leg a couple of years ago.  He was riding his motorcycle and was struck by a drunk driver.  I’m not going into the specifics of his accident – it was gory and awful and with or without hindsight, life-altering.  Chris was a trainer before the accident; he’s a trainer now.  He is an avid competitor – it seems that he’s in a marathon or triathlon every other week.  He hears a lot of praise when he’s pushing the envelope,  and deserves all of it.  But to me, he deserves it because he held on to his heart throughout this ordeal, he didn’t compromise on his life and he didn’t lose the ability to laugh.  He adores his wife, relishes his friendships and family and knows how to have a good time.  He still has to deal with the frustration that comes with parts that fail, waiting for insurance companies to do what they’re supposed to do, having to consider what most of us don’t even think about at all.  He still has to deal with the ghosts that dance in his head (even though he doesn’t think anyone knows about them) and get up every morning and dare the dawn to get in his way. And let me tell you, the morning steps aside.  As it should.

Chris’ will, his expectations of himself, his laugh…it’s the stuff of good character.  The way his eyes betray him when he thinks someone is in pain, his sense of commitment, his frustrations…it’s the stuff that makes him human.  The combination of heart and head, determination and focus, reality and hope…that’s the stuff of everyday legends.


46 thoughts on “‘What Becomes A Legend Most’”

  1. I am in awe, daily, of people with the grit and character of your Chris; role models for us all, with all they do, perfect examples of to what we should all aspire. How karmic that you are both on a journey together. Have a great week. Loved today’s blog and was waiting with anticipation for the truck to stop today. As always, you do not disappoint. xoxoxox

    1. Thanks Jo..He deserves a post of his own – and then some. A wonderful guy..I’m so glad you liked today’s stop..xoxox

  2. The best of the human spirit certainly shines through this young man. Keeping the love, laughter, compassion in his heart is the true testament to the mettle this guy is made of. A wonderful post Mimi and I am glad he’s part of your journey…for both of you.

    1. Well I certainly am lucky to have met him – though I’m not sure he gets nearly as much out of the dynamic (though I appreciate you thinking so!)..

      1. And that’s what’s so great..how you completely appreciate him! These things…are supposed to happen 🙂 xo

  3. Ok, my dear, if you expect me to be surprised that *you* have been matched up with this clearly incredible young man as your trainer, you’re gonna be sorely disappointed. Can you say ‘Law of Attraction,’ good things come to good people, ya get back what you put out? Chris is obviously a remarkable man and an indomitable spirit, and I daresay *just* the right match for Ms. Mimi, she of the “ever-ready encouraging remark, pat on the back, ‘atta boy’, you can do it, I’ve got a hug heading your way” spirit. Girl, I am quite certain you bring *just* as much to his life as he does to yours, and isn’t that a beautiful thing?!

    “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” –Winston Churchill

    …to the moon…. xoxo, l

    1. You leave me without words yet again..I hope I bring that into the world my sweet friend – for I sure get that back in multiples..to the moon..xoxo, m

  4. You and Chris are a perfect match; he has the physical and emotional capacity to understand pain and that’s why he has been so beneficial to your physical strength and well being. Karma at its best! What a blessing to hold onto.

      1. Thank you again for doing so, I love to hear the true life hero stories, they make the hair on my arms stand up!

    1. Oh hardly Jenni..but thanks, I’m not inspiration material – just a woman in her fifties trying to fight a losing battle with gravity and doing her damndest to remain upright! 😉

      1. 🙂 Anyone who gets out the door and to the gym is an inspiration to me…My bed is just so much more alluring than my gym!

      1. Why oh why do you think that I would have any less of a neurotic response than you would, friend o’ mine?

      2. Laughing. Actually I kind of look forward to it. There is comfort in consistency. And you so offer this up in so many ways. Full stop.

  5. I can’t think of many things that are more important to put in writing than to share the story of someone who is a personal inspiration. Thanks for sharing this with all of us.

    1. Thank you Frank – I too think it’s important to recognize those people in our daily lives who impact us in such positive ways..

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