Either/Or

Hi Dave,

For whatever reason, your post this morning served as a kick in the butt and encouraged me to send up a signal. I’m still here with a site of my own, which I have neglected for months and months – I suppose I ran out of things to say (really, I did)…You have spoken for me and for many many more (DK’s site davidkanigan.com is a MUST) – and I am grateful. And when you have no words, you have photos that have an amazing vocabulary.

“I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.” – E.B. White

This has been my mantra and my excuse. My day starts with the best of intentions and quickly devolves into some shapeless passage of time. Doesn’t mean it hasn’t been a decent day of sorts – it’s just that the emphasis is on the amorphous quality to the passage of time…

Anyway, here’s what I was thinking, my friend…I’ve always been an either/or kinda person. It’s great or it sucks. I am happy or I’m not. The world is beautiful or reflects the most abhorrent, awful neglect imaginable. Let’s just say it makes for an unrealistic set-up of sorts.

When I was in grad school, one of my professors challenged this position, and it remains with me still. He asked me if someone can be both strong and weak; can the world be magnificent and hideous; can we live with perpetual dichotomy. Well, when he put it to me that way…

I am secure and scared; well-intended with a sharp tongue; humbled by the cardinals dancing in our backyard and full of self-deprecation when I forget to recycle. I don’t compost and I use only environmentally friendly ingredients in the garden. I am funny and I cry at Hallmark commercials. I am self-critical and feel the need to pat myself on the back some days.

One need not look far to see horror, to see people behaving in ways that are completely antithetical to saving the planet, saving each other, offering grace. One need not look far to see valor and commitment and tenderness, to hear giggles and music, to articulate appreciation for the heroes in our days. All in the same day, in the same place, at the same time.

So today, you can look over here – for I’m so glad you’re my friend. Full stop. No either/or. Have a good day, me

27 Comments »

  1. Welcome back. Please stay. You touch my soul with your glorious words and you speak to my heart. No either or. Always.

  2. What a wonderful post, Mimi. David does inspire all of us (he did me, just yesterday!) doesn’t he?

    Yes, either/or applies to pretty much everything!

  3. Good morning — no matter how much time passes — I am always thrilled to open my e-mail first thing in the morning and see a karma truck post. I really enjoyed Dave’s post and your expansion of prose re the same. You have a way of profoundly hitting the nail on the head in describing the sign of our times. The year 2020/2021 have presented challenges for all of us in so many ways. Your comment about planning the day with good intentions and then have it play out in a shapeless passage of time hits home. Keep writing to us. Miss you to the moon and back. XOK.

  4. Well done, Mim

    From: Waiting for the Karma Truck Reply-To: Waiting for the Karma Truck Date: Friday, July 9, 2021 at 8:40 AM To: Subject: [New post] Either/Or

    mimijk posted: ” Hi Dave, For whatever reason, your post this morning served as a kick in the butt and encouraged me to send up a signal. I’m still here with a site of my own, which I have neglected for months and months – I suppose I ran out of things to say (reall”

  5. Hello friend…how refreshing and comforting to come across your words this morning…thank you! And yes, concur…the ever-loving duality of life is impossible to circumvent…you are spot on! ♥

  6. Hey BonBon!! I’m so happy to hear from you! Yeah, the human pendulum that swings back and forth when we can’t accept the duality that is being alive…miss you and hope ll is well! Xo

  7. Ahhh, honey, my heart jumped for joy when I saw the Karma Truck roll into my ‘virtual driveway’ this morning. 🙂 Your message resonates so deeply with me. I, too, struggle to straddle the dichotomies gracefully…right/wrong, good/bad, clever/critical, just fine/never enough…and I’m never certain of the degree of my success. What I *do* know, however, is that with the love, laughter, wisdom and insight afforded to me by friends like you, DK and other lovely souls I’ve been blessed with in my life, I will continue to muddle through. You are my blessing, ever and always. No either/or about it…. xxoo

  8. Fair point – that we do have some absolutes in this quest to accept the dichotomies we live with – friendships, no qualifications and muddle through we will…xoxo

  9. So MOVED.

    I read this…

    “Anyway, here’s what I was thinking, my friend…I’ve always been an either/or kinda person. It’s great or it sucks. I am happy or I’m not. The world is beautiful or reflects the most abhorrent, awful neglect imaginable. Let’s just say it makes for an unrealistic set-up of sorts.”

    And said, she has to be a Sister. Must be is the same gene pool.

    Beautiful post.

    Have a wonderful weekend Mimi.

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