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It’s Beautiful The Second Time Around Too

I have to say, it’s really cool to receive this award again.  You may not know this but when Sally Fields won the Oscar and shouted “You like me! You really  like me!”, I was the one who suggested she say that.  No I didn’t – just teasing.  But I do understand how she felt.  Thank you to Olo O’Matthew for the shout out.  His blog boblobslaw.com is a testament to his joy-filled art and loving musings about life.  Please check out his posts – they’re terrific.

This is the part I enjoy the most – paying this forward.  You recipients are obligated to do the same…

Shut Up Dad.wordpress.com

Dr. Bill Wooten.wordpress.com

Girl On the Contrary.wordpress.com

Letlifeinpractices.com

truthletsandthoughtbits.com

shoesonthewrongfeet.com

newsofthetimes.com

I’m following many more and with a little luck I’ll get one of these awards again, and I’ll applaud the efforts of others as well!  Thank you again – if I could draw, I’d post a very happy face.

 

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The most fitting words and image for today – and one for which I take no credit. Thank you to Boblobslaw. And thank you to all who deserve our unending appreciation and remembrance today.

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The Rising Sun of Hope to all of those who have served. To all of those who have lost someone, or something.

The ones still risking.
The ones still bearing heavy burdens.
The ones seeking Glory.
The ones who seek to Protect.
The ones who seek and destroy, Our enemies.
The ones who will endlessly be never-ending.
The ones who go unspoken.
The ones who are recognized.
The ones who don’t know.
The ones who are one.
We are One.

This is a dedication to our Veterans, and Active service military.

The Rising Sun is a Hope that I hope gets granted to all of those who deserve such remarkable admiration on this day.

Please spread this article, and image to all of those you know who have served, and are still serving.

The Rising Sun still gives HOPE.

 

This Piece of Art, and following writing was created by me…

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Tuesday Teases

The sun will play second fiddle to the rain and clouds again today.  I guess the choice is to turn over and go back to sleep or start the day with a smile and accept that my hair will frizz, I’m going to get wet and I won’t melt.  Here’s a morning smile for you…

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Magic for a Saturday morning

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Sunrise from an aeroplane window

– By Saurabh Singhal

“Even
After
All this time
The Sun never says to the Earth,

“You owe me.”

Look
What happens
With a love like that,
It lights the whole sky.”

― Hafez

Sun on the beach

– By Jyotsna Vulpey

Beauty of the Sun

– By Ankit Agarwal

“There is, I have heard, a little thing called sunrise, in which the sun reverses the process we all viewed the night before. You might assume such a thing as mythical as those beasts that guard the corners of the earth, but I have it on the finest authority, and have, indeed, from time to time, regarded it with my own eyes.”

– Lauren Willig, The Garden Intrigue — at 12th block.

The Dark Sun

Enjoy these great shots. My exams are finally getting over today. Expect some even greater posts in the coming time :). Till then, good day everyone!

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From the inspirational David Kanigan

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Inspiring.  Catchy thump, thump, thump rhythmic cadence.  Hypnotic.  Worthy 3 minute clip.  A few of my favorite excerpts.

“This is an invocation for anyone who hasn’t begun to start, who is stuck between 0 and 1”

“Let me think about the people I care about the most.  Like when they fail or disappoint me, I still love them, I still give them chances, and I still see the best in them.  Let me extend the same generosity to myself.

“If I catch myself wearing a tutu – 2FAT, 2LATE, 2OLD, let me shake it off like…”

“Let me be not so vain to think that I am the sole author of my victories and a victim of my defeats…”

“Let me remember that the unintended meaning that people project on to what I do is neither my fault or something I can take credit for.”

“Let me not think of…

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Back To Basics – Part 2

I feel a little vindicated.  An article in Forbes recently appeared that dealt with the overabundance of email and its impact on the development of quality professional relationships.  The author offered a solution you may have already read on this site – the idea of having a ‘no email’ day – invoking a day where people have the choice of getting up and talking with each other or at the least getting on the phone.  Please don’t burst my happy little bubble by delicately suggesting that this is hardly a new idea.  I know – but it sure felt good to see it in a more legitimate, well read format.  As my babelicious nephew would say – “True dat, Mimi”.

So I’m intrepidly going out on a limb, despite my fear of heights, and offering some other basic principles which I think could bring your employees greater professional satisfaction, enhance the quality of your leadership and perhaps, just perhaps improve your results.  At the least it may give you something to think about.  And as always, if it can provoke a smile, all the better.

1 – You can never learn anything while you’re talking.

2 –  You can have a happily-ever-after work experience – especially if you look at is day by day.

3 – Presenting yourself as one who knows it all, doesn’t inspire confidence or make you a great boss.  It makes you insufferable and impossible to work for (or live with for that matter).

4 – Try congratulating the person who owns up to making a mistake.  I’m serious – I used to do it all the time.  To me it was reflective of the individual’s willingness to take responsibility for the work under his/her jurisdiction and greatly increased the likelihood that such an error wouldn’t occur again.  What I never did was let them take the fall in public – I took the hit.  When all was said and done, I’d ask the employee what the ‘takeaway’ was and was never disappointed by the thoughtfulness of the response.

5 – If you’re going to take professional risks – and we all should – put your faith in those with whom you work.  Let them know that you’re willing to back them and show your trust in them in deed.

6 – I used to have regular meetings with my team.  Twice a year though we engaged in an exercise called “Building BHAGs (big, hairy, ambitious goals).  The rules were few – the goals had to be a little scary, strategically important for the firm, and require that they be achieved collaboratively.  Timelines were established with the knowledge that they could be somewhat fluid and each person tracked their contributions on a SharePoint site.  Eventually they asked me not to come to the first meetings because they wanted to do it themselves, showing me their final recommendations.  They were amazing.  In other words – you don’t have to put your mark on every piece of paper, idea and/or project.  If you’ve developed your people well, give them every chance to shine.

7 – “I’m sorry” are two of the most under-utilized words in the workplace.

8 – “Any new venture goes through the following stages:  enthusiasm, complication, disillusionment, search for the guilty, punishment of the innocent and decoration of those who did nothing – Anon”.  If you are in a position of responsibility, you can change this outcome with a modicum of effort and close attention to the rhythm of the work that is being done, the tenor of the conversations that are taking place and the quality of the activities that will drive the result.  Oh yeah – that’s your job too.

9 – Always, always hire people who are smarter than you and then give them the substantive work that will make them thrive.  It may seem counter-intuitive, but I promise you will not be hiring yourself out of a job – rather making room for you to take on more signficant projects of your own.

10 – Mike Ditka was right – failure isn’t fatal.  The corollary of course is that success doesn’t last forever either.  Learn to accept the ebb and flow of the realities of work.

Finally, think about your professional legacy.  Do you want to be known for something other than showing up?  I’m convinced most of you do. Identify the values and leadership style for which you will want to be associated even when you have moved on to new adventures.  Try one thing differently every week – big or small – and see if there is more you can do to ensure you will be remembered in a way that will satisfy and please you.  And Happy St. Patrick’s Day everyone – may each day hold at least one four leaf clover for you.

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E.T. Management – Part 1

There’s a lot to be learned about management from going to the movies.  Much of what I needed to know about the basics of working with people, I learned from “E.T’.  To risk an attenuated blog (for a change), I’ll provide you with the abbreviated version.  We can write each other about it as thoughts come to mind…

1.  It’s the things we don’t know that scare us the most.  Once we face an issue head-on, it typically casts a more comfortable shadow.

2.  Don’t discriminate against anyone just because they’re not like you.  They may be better.

3.  The Platinum Rule trumps the Golden Rule – treat others as they wish to be treated, not necessarily in the way in which you think they want to be treated.

4.  M&Ms can improve a bad day.

5.  People communicate differently.  The first step is to figure out whether or not you understand what someone is trying to tell you and where s/he is coming from (ok, pun intended).

6.  Most of us have a Plan A; it’s essential to have a plan B.

7.  If you can’t get past an obstacle, enlist the help of others and try hitting it head on or jumping right over it.

8.  Love and profit can exist in the same sentence.

9.  If you go too far afield from your authentic self, compromise too many values and distance yourself from what you know is right for you, it’s time to get back to an environment where you thrive.

10. Phone home.

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I Never Slept With Jack Kennedy

So this woman named Mimi has written a book about her affair with Jack Kennedy.  You can imagine my discomfort upon hearing this announcement.  I didn’t get the memo that February was Mimi-Confessionals-Month.  After all, I just started this blog in January.  How exposed do you expect me to be so early in our relationship?  Had I realized that February was going to be our month to tell secrets-of-absolutely-no-consequence-to-anyone, I might have waited until March to start this exercise.  This is gonna be tough.

Advertising secrets is tricky (it’s also an oxymoron, but I digress) –  you have to choose one that is sensational enough for people to consider it titillating, yet innocuous enough that you can melt back into your life within a couple of minutes.  How funny it sounded to me when I heard Mimi say on The Today Show, that she was coming forward now, because “secrets eventually come out”.  Sure – they come out if you open your mouth, sweetheart.  My hunch is that there are more than a few women and men in history who proffered favors upon our Presidents and we will never know who they are or were, and more to the point, who they did.

Anyway, I’m not trying to shirk my responsibility here.  I recognize that as a Mimi I too must stand up in concert with my fellow Mimsters and disclose something really big.  Here we go world…big inhalation of breath, cue the violins, please.

My name is Mimi and I’m an accessory slut.  I have not made a purchase in eleven months.  This is my first public admission of my dalliances with handbag, shoe and jewelry counters from Needless Markup to Nordstrom’s, Louis Vuitton to La Bottega.  I swear I never meant for this to happen.  I suppose there were early signs that I would grab the delicious red suede glove of Satan the Sartorial.  When my mom, sister and I would go shopping at Loehmann’s or Klein’s, I gravitated to the sequins and sparkles, while they would be craving a muted tweed. “Ach, Mimi that’s terrible..come schatzi, look at this classic herringbone..”  Sigh…

I started small when I received my first bonus.  “Get something for yourself”, my husband said. “Reward yourself – you deserve it”.  And so the spiral began with a magnificent ring made for me by my sister-in-law.  I found that every outfit looked better with the right accessory.  In fact, you didn’t need to shop for anything requiring disrobing if you headed straight for the accoutrements.  One handbag a year?  Ha – one handbag per season, easy.  Yes – I confess I own a pair of Laboutins and a pair of Jimmy Choos.  Of course, neither pair can be worn for more than ten minutes without crippling me.  Talk about karma.  Obviously, things were getting out of control.  Why would I buy an accessory that would hurt me?  It’s one thing to buy something you’re going to enjoy.  This was ridiculous.  I had more earrings than I had lobes – or piercings.  I was working like a dog, at least I should outfit myself like a designer one.  Those were desperate times – but I looked good.  And where am I today?  Still trying to clean out my closet.

Why tell you this now?  Honestly, I couldn’t think of anything more exciting in my history for my contribution to February-Tell-All-Month.  And I sure as hell wouldn’t tell you anything that could hurt another person in the process.  Which is why I’m a little annoyed with my fellow Mimi.  I understand the need to unburden one’s soul – that’s why there are best friends, priests, rabbis, swamis, shrinks.  I don’t understand the need to sensationalize a secret in the name of doing the right thing.  Don’t ask me to believe that the only recourse for a haunted adolescent conscience is to write a book detailing events from a lifetime ago.  I’m not judging the events themselves; I’m judging the value of the “sell all”.  And now that I have disclosed my secret to the world, I feel justified to assert the following – “Mimi, don’t tell me, I don’t want to know.”

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The Older I Get, The Less I Know

Thanks to the wisdom of two of my younger friends, I have joined Twitterdom.  I’m not exactly sure what this means for either my consulting practice nor my blogs, but I am fascinated by the exchanges that exist in the ether – comradeship among people who have never met, yet are joined by common interest.  I never thought you could put passion into 140 characters, yet my friends J and V have proved me wrong.  The power of a delicately placed exclamation point!  The seductiveness of a thoughtful question tossed out into the world without anticipation of a definitive answer but the responses of fellow ponderers.  I have followers already – though I admit that I have no idea why.

The benefit of a circumspect technological footprint is evident when working in a law firm.  The concerns of client confidentiality, the toxicity of leaked memos, the intellectual property that requires protection, the danger of corrupting the platform – these are but a few of the drivers that inform the philosophy.  I ‘googled’ myself once and found an article I had written, a quote or two taken from one of my presentations, my name in Who’s Who – man, was I relieved.  My footprint was smaller than my actual shoe size.  There was nothing remarkable; as entries go, I was anonymous.  I refuse to check now – between Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, this blog – my God, I am standing virtually naked in cyberspace (not the greatest visual I admit).  The good news of course is that no one would recognize me if they fell over me.

I have always been a proponent of the face-to-face conversation – I still am.  There is nothing like looking into someone’s eyes, assessing the shorthand provided by body language, enjoying the rhythm of the spoken word.  And yet, along with the need to continually get my grey roots highlighted, is the need to continue shading and highlighting the different hues with which I approach my life.  I will always delight in the familiar – and I am learning to delight in the experience of the new.

On Facebook there is a discreet group who remember me as a camp counselor.  Their memories of me singing, hugging a vulnerable child warm my soul.  We all want to be held gently in other peoples’ minds.  Of course what I note is that the posted pictures reflect that as hideous as I was in 1972, things got better in 1974 (but the kids were all adorable).  There is a nexus where childhood, camp and adult friends meet – at the point where I was convinced that Barbra Streisand and I were going to be thisclose, and my concern for others trumped all other priorities (except Streisand).  The consistency between then and now is remarkable despite  my awareness that I missed the Broadway boat.  For all I have done, have I moved no farther than this?  My boss used to say that there was no one better at promoting the abilities and talents of others and no one worse at self-promotion than me.  The more things change, the more they stay the same in some ways.

If the core of who I am has remained fairly unchanged, so much around me continues to evolve.  This is what engages my curiosity, this is how I want to keep increasing the layers of my life.  I’m getting on board folks, albeit tentatively.  I am learning from those who are so much more advanced than I in the ways in which communication chains are now being forged – whether for a moment or a lifetime.  That said, I hope we never abandon our collective ability to write a love letter long hand and give each other time and space to speak without abbreviation.  If  I reluctantly enter this accelerated arena, I’m nonetheless enthusiastically drawn to its membership.  There is a whole lot of energy out there and it’s contagious.

Alas it’s true, I don’t know yet when to use the hash tag or the @ symbol.  I make up my own acronyms because I have no clue what half of the commonly used ones stand for.  But as Lao Tzu said, the true leader knows when to lead from the front and follow from behind.  Clearly I’m too young to lead this charge and happily will follow your lead.  Lol.